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Category: Justice & Charity

  • Charity Is a Supernatural Virtue

    Today when people hear the word “charity,” they often think of donations, fundraisers, or volunteer work. These are good things, but they only scratch the surface of what charity really is.

    In Christian teaching, charity—caritas—is not simply kindness or generosity. It is a supernatural virtue. Saint Paul places it above even faith and hope:

    “Now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.” (1 Cor 13:13)

    Why is charity the greatest? Because it is not something we generate on our own. It is God’s own love, poured into our hearts by grace, enabling us to love as He loves.

    The Natural Foundation

    Even without revelation, human beings are inclined to goodwill toward others. Aristotle called this eunoia—acting with the good of others, and the common good, in mind. This is a natural virtue, and it is real. We can see it in acts of kindness, civic friendship, and common concern for neighbors and strangers alike.

    Yet, natural virtue is fragile. It can be easily distorted by pride, fear, or selfishness.

    Grace Perfects Nature

    Christ calls us beyond this natural level:

    “Be ye perfect, even as your heavenly Father is perfect.” (Mt 5:48)

    On our own, we cannot attain such perfection. But grace builds on nature and lifts it higher. When God infuses charity into the soul, it transforms natural goodwill into supernatural love. We are empowered to love not only as we would want to be loved, but as Christ Himself loves—freely, fully, and sacrificially.

    The Freedom of Love

    Aristotle observed that no act is virtuous unless it is voluntary. Forced “charity” is no charity at all. The same holds true in the supernatural order: Christian love must be freely chosen. It is a gift of grace, but also a response of the heart.

    That is why true charity is always personal. It is not only about writing a check or supporting a program. It is about opening the heart to God and to others—loving in freedom, with the very love of Christ that has first been given to us.

    Edited with assistance of ChatGPT-5

  • False Mercy: When Help Hurts

    Why some forms of charity can do more harm than good — and how to offer real support instead

    We all want to help. We see someone struggling, and we reach for kindness. We give money, offer shelter, send the care package.

    But sometimes, the very thing we do to help… ends up holding someone back.

    That’s what we mean by false mercy.

    What Is False Mercy?

    False mercy looks like kindness.
    It feels like compassion.
    But in reality, it removes the opportunity for growth.

    It’s the kind of help that:

    • Solves a problem for someone instead of with them
    • Removes consequences that are meant to teach
    • Replaces responsibility with rescue
    • Makes us feel good, but leaves the other person stuck

    When Help Becomes Harm

    Imagine this:

    A young man is floundering. He can’t hold a job. He avoids responsibility.
    His parents step in to pay rent. Then groceries. Then car insurance.

    Now he has no pressure to grow, no urgency to change, and no sense of agency.

    What looked like love became a trap.
    What felt like mercy became a cage.

    This isn’t rare — it’s happening all around us.
    In families. In schools. In churches. In governments.

    And it often starts with good intentions.

    Charity Without Challenge

    Indiscriminate charity — the kind that gives with no structure, no expectation, and no relationship — can do more than waste resources.

    It can:

    • Block transformation
    • Reduce dignity
    • Delay calling
    • Send the message: “You can’t do this on your own.”

    That’s not love.
    That’s quiet sabotage.

    The Call Must Be Answered — Personally

    In every story worth telling, the hero has to choose.

    • The Prodigal Son had to return on his own feet
    • Moses had to leave the wilderness and face Pharaoh
    • You had to go back to school and finish your degree

    The turning point always requires agency.

    And when we step in too hard, too soon, or too often…
    We may be keeping someone from their turning point.

    So How Do We Truly Help?

    We don’t need less compassion — we need wiser compassion.

    Here’s what that can look like:

    • Support with accountability
       → “I believe in you. What are you going to do next?”
    • Help that invites responsibility
       → “I’ll match your effort — not replace it.”
    • Challenge as a form of care
       → “You’re capable of more. I won’t take that from you.”
    • Trust in someone’s potential
       → “I won’t rescue you because I respect you too much.”

    Real Mercy Looks Different

    It doesn’t always feel soft.
    It doesn’t always feel “nice.”

    But it’s the kind of love that leads to real growth, not quiet dependency.

    Because real mercy doesn’t remove the fire.
    It walks beside someone through it — and trusts that they will rise.

  • Neighbor Definition

    I am in the process of trying to analyze what the Bible refers to as Neighbor.

    The Bible says to Love your Neighbor. It also says that whatever you do for the least of these, you do for me. In the days of the Bible, if it involved a distance of more than 20 miles, the best you could hope to do was send a package or a gift.

    The word Neighbor translates to Vecino in Spanish. Vecino is like the word Vicinity. And the direct literal translation from Spanish to English is Near.

    A Neighbor is a person who is near. I would say that a neighbor is a person within your Microsphere.

    The Bible says to whatever you do to the least of these, you do to me. The least of these would extend to those who you see regularly, but who are considered less by society.

    That includes children, women, the poor  and the infirm.

    It also extends to strangers and your enemy. But even in these cases, it refers to a stranger that comes to you. And it also addresses an enemy who is near to you.

    None of these references for neighbor, least of these, Stranger, or Enemy is a reference to significantly beyond your microsphere. I think this also brings in what the Catholic Church says about subsidiarity, that we are to focus on taking care of things at the most local level.

    If we want to deal with what takes place in a foreign land, Jesus sent his disciples out with just their sandals, and not even any food to eat. He did not send  them out with goods as gifts that might influence the receivers.

    This model seems most like how the Amish and Mennonites live. The Mennonites have missions, but they mostly go live with the people and be an example. The Amish model does not allow for traveling great distances

    Regards

    Tom Neugebauer

    Seized by Christ